It was only a few years ago that I found out what a Beta male was. It was described as the better version of what a male should be when compared to the much vilified Alpha male.
Take a moment as I did and do a Google search about Alpha males. What I found was various sites that described them in most unfavorable and untrue ways, while others sort of softened the concept of what a real Alpa male is. Toxic masculinity and misogynist are a few of the favorite terms they like to use regarding males who are assertive, take charge, are confidant, and truly masculine.
Now the Beta male is heralded as what an ideal male should be. Here is what I found when I looked up the traits of a Beta male: Follows rather than leads, He's conflict-avoidant, He's just not competitive, He tends toward introversion, He's happy being in the number two spot, He leads towards co-dependency, He's a yes man, He is friendly to a fault, self-accepting, not inspired by the thrill of the hunt. I could go on but you get the picture. My question to this is, what self-respecting male would want to be like this?
What follows is a list of the characteristics of an Alpa Male taken from a webpage called The Beast:
1. He’s courageous
"The alpha male is not fearless. Nobody is fearless. We all have insecurities and fears that we cannot control. However, the alpha male is able to push on in a particular direction in spite of his fears.
He may be afraid that his new business will fail, but that won’t stop him from trying. He may be afraid that the cute receptionist will reject his advances, but he’ll go for it anyway.
2. He can control his emotions
How we react to unfavorable circumstances plays a large role in our lives. If the shit hits the fan and you’re fired, or you’re dumped, or you’re viciously insulted – how will you react?
The alpha male will react by taking a series of deep breaths and evaluating his next best action, he won’t lash out emotionally and dig himself a grave.
3. He has a purpose
It doesn’t matter if you want to be a professional athlete, an accountant, a CEO, or a world-traveler – but it does matter that you want something. When we know where we’re heading – when we have a direction in life – we’re filled with a sense of motivation and determination. Our days are spent making progress and striving for improvement. And this comes through in our thoughts, actions, and overall demeanor.
The alpha male always has a purpose. He never just floats around aimlessly.
4. He’s not afraid to make decisions
The fear of making decisions is actually a fear of dealing with the consequences of making the wrong decision, whether that means eating at a shitty restaurant or investing in a shitty company. This stems from the courage we covered in number 1 above, but it deserves its own number because people recognize decision makers. And they identify them as leaders. And alpha males are not afraid to lead.
5. He’s not afraid to say what’s on his mind
People have grown overly sensitive. All too often we don’t say what we’re really thinking. Maybe we’re afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. Or maybe we’re afraid of starting a confrontation.
The alpha male proceeds and states his honest opinion despite this fear. No, he doesn’t do it haphazardly to the point where he’s needlessly making people feel like shit or starting worthless fights, but he doesn’t let an uncomfortable interaction stop him from getting what he wants.
6. He doesn’t let any one thing rule his life
Some people become consumed by their careers. Others are consumed by their relationships. When this happens, everything else starts to fall apart. Their health declines, their career declines, and their relationships are ruined.
The alpha male recognizes that life must be balanced. Work, love, health, and friends are all essential areas that must be cultivated in order to maintain a strong lifestyle across the board.
7. He maintains his physical health
How we feel and how we act starts from within. If we’re 300 pounds overweight and we haven’t slept in 3 days, then nothing else matters. Without a strong, healthy body we cannot have a strong, healthy mind. And other people’s perceptions of us will also deteriorate. After all, first impressions are everything, and what do you think when a fat slob stumbles into your path at the grocery store?
The alpha male values his body above all else, because he recognizes that without his health, nothing else matters. He eats well, and he lifts weights.
8. He’s not afraid to say “no”
People will ask you for favors in life. This is inevitable. And if the benefit of the favor to the other person outweighs the cost of doing the favor to you, then it should be done. But these costs and benefits should be measured. The alpha male is not a pushover. He doesn’t blindly oblige to the whims and requests of others. If his boss asks him to stay late, but he has plans elsewhere, then he kindly says “no” and moves on.
He doesn’t feel the need to explain himself either. He’s not saying “no” out of hatred or contempt, but rather because he’s looking out for his best interests. Selfishness is underrated. I’m not saying to be a selfish asshole, but if we all looked out for ourselves, then we’d all be much better off.
9. He acknowledges his weaknesses
If you’re blind to your weaknesses then you’re setting yourself up for failure. They will continue to undermine you at every step of your life until they’re addressed and improved. It doesn’t matter if it’s a categorical weakness like being bad with women or a character weakness like being impatient (this is my achilles heel).
The alpha male doesn’t get depressed about having a weakness. And he doesn’t deny it out of a sense of pride. Instead he realizes that he’s lacking, and he moves to fix it.
10. He holds himself with a strong posture
The final item on this list is a physical one. How we hold ourselves directly impacts how we feel and how others perceive us. The alpha male doesn’t slouch forward or stare down at his feet when he’s talking to you. He holds his head high and looks you in the eye. And this strong, confident posture is mirrored inside of him."
As I have written before, this American society no longer wants Alpha males. They don't even want them in our military. Read how the hapless loser, General Milley, second highest ranking military person in our feckless government, made it a point to say he wanted, in so many words, to get rid of all the Alpha male types in our military. That he wanted to understand their "white rage." Is it any wonder that only 27% of our youth are deemed fit for military service and that they are lowering physical and mental requirements to get in?
An American society without Alpha males is an easily led one. For example, look at the prominent Alpha male in our country who has been hounded and wrongly accused for SEVEN years. And please, forget your f'ng political beliefs, unfair persecution to anyone by the government and society is not right. You don't think they will not try to eventually go after your "rights?" Read a world history book and get back to me.
Choose to live and be different than the herd.
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